Ghajini

Wondering about the title of this post? Even I wondered about the title of Amir Khan`s Ghajini before it was released. And I again wondered and was surprised when I saw my face in a mirror after getting haircut this sunday. It took a couple of seconds to identify myself and also to realise that I have had the shortest hair ever in my life. Yes, that is what Ghajini is what all about. I knew people are going to give weird reactions and everyone is surely going to ask Y? People did give their feedbacks. I took all of them as compliments. I will tell you why! There were 4-5 people who said it was looking good. A woman in my office said I looked scary. This is a compliment coz I dont really want to look good or handsome to impress women. And thirdly a couple of women told ame that I have very nice hair and I look good in long hair. And most of the comments focussed on Ghajini. That I look like Aamir Khan of Ghajini (except for that stripe and few scars on my head. I do have a few scars on my head which reminded me of so many head injuries I have had). Thank you very much all of you. But I had this haircut just for myself. Because my insticts asked me to get it done. The aim was not at all to have the Ghajini look or to look scary or to let people compliment on my (missing) long hair. We, the human beings, realise value only when a thing/person/feeling goes missing. Its true.

Another thing i want to discuss very shortly here is the latest movie I saw. RAAJNEETI. Yeah! The samePrakash Jha movie. The same movie which I wanted to see not because of subject, cast, director or any other reason except that it has been shot entirely in Bhopal. However, the nature of movie is such that if you concentrate on the shooting and glimse of Bhopal, you may miss links in the movie. However I did not miss either of this. Bhopal looks as pretty as it really is. I could have suggested certain better locations of Mr. Jha. The concept of movie is good. Where the themes of Mahabharat and Godfather have been merged. -Manojbajpai -Suyodhan- very nice;
Ajay Devgan - Karn- fantastic
Nana- Krishna
Ranbir Kapoor- Michael Corleaone (less shades of Arjun)
Katrina Kaif - looks more like Gandhari
Mother- Failed as the portrayal of Kunti
Arjun Rampal- Sonny Corleone/Bhim
Chandra Pratap- Pandu, etc etc..........


But they havent been merged successfully. As you can gather, I have negative reviews about the movie. The truth about the politics shown in the movie (as compared with Mahabharat) in nicely portrayed but not really new and convincing. The director has portrayed as if the characters in the movie as still living in the Dwapar Yug of Mahabharat. There is Rajgaddi, there are contenders which are all in a family, there is morality as well as immorality but where is the Law and Order which exists today? If one makes a very logical movie, then you have to make sure nothing about it should be either illogical or unreasonable.

However, seeing so many familiar places in a movie for the first time was a great experience. I could identify almost 80 percent of the locations bang on target. My entire life in bhopal including my college life has been around those roads and locations. The climax of the movie whether Ajay-Manoj's Scorpio is pushed in a ditch was exactly in the same place where i got down from my car to pull out a election pamphlet/poster of Katrina Kaif. The U-turn the cars take when Chandra Pratap dies in where I was stuck in a scarry procession of Muharrma with my mom inside our car. And there are so many memories attached to almost each oand every location. So inspite of not liking this movie so much, I will make sure I have this movie in my collection.

Girl Bashing???

A friend of mine liked my previous post (wooomen) quite a lot and asked for my permission for putting the same in the Wall of his facebook profile. (To all my readers who arent aware, I am not on facebook since March 29, 2010 which was also coincidentally birthday of someone i knew. I dont have an answer and I dont have a reasonable justification for all those who think that was foolish). So, with my consent, my post was published. And as usual it happens on facebook "x, y and Z and 5000 others like it", I was told that a couple of people liked it. Yes, everyone has a right to like and dislike things. But one person said he liked it coz he loved anything related to girl bashing. Whoever you are and howsoever great philosopher, stud, dude or a hunk u are, but that wasnt meant for girl bashing. I understand that depending upon so many factors, two different person can deduce different meaning out of the same sentence. I am not complaining but i got furious after knowing it. I dont exactly understand these modern, cool, hot and happening jargons. I dont need to justify to anyone what I write. So, I am not writing hereto justify what I wrote and why i wrote. But i need to write something about what I think to avoid misinterpretation in future.

In 25 years 6 months and 6 days of my life, I have had millions of experiences. And in respect of some of such experiences, I believed that those happened quite early and in younger days of my life. But I do not complain as there are miliion other people who would have had such or even bad experiences in even younger days of their lives.  And I have done a blunder once in my life. A mistake for which I cant really forgive myself ever. An act for which I have lost so much. And the tregedy which keeps hauting me. But anyways that is a part of life and it is going to be like that. I have learnt from it. And my character has grew much more stronger since then. I am on my own. And based on all kinds of experiences in my life, I now accept everyone the way they are. I am not judgemental about anyone. Just like a fool, I can now trust even strangers, a taxi driver, a beggar and even a thief for that matter. Anyways like always, main kuch zyada hi beh gaya. Coming back to about women. Everything I do and everything I believe is based on my personal experience and so are my words below.

It is true that at times I completely fail to understand women. But I know they get confused so easily. In this world, I do not know why but it has set up like that so many men are interested in the same woman at the same time. And hence she gets confused. May be it is like that every guy promises heaven, every guy promises golden dreams, every guys touches her heart and every guys promises to break all barriers. But point is that who actually does it. He is the man.  Most of the cases, she might be liking only one guy and rest are just friends. Such kind of friends who are not friend but who are hopeful that they will be able to get her one day. And like this latest Tata Docomo ad, "they hear only that tune which they want to listen. If a girl says "love you" to them, they believe she really loves them and they have some chance. And when they get to know she likes someone else, they call her bitch, slut and what not. They themselves do not realise that they were the real cheaters when in decoy of a friend, they were actually tempting for her. She is not a bitch, slut or whatever you call her. If there are many guys and she doesnt like one particualr guy and is again confused, it isnt her fault. The rule of nature is like that. And if you are frustated at her, then it is your own fault. You are frustated because you did not love her. You are frustated because you did not get what you wanted out of being in a relationship with that girl. If you believe in true n unconditional love, the guy shall not be frustrated. He will be heartbroken. He will be depressed but will keep loving her the way he did. No matter what you tell him about her, that she is like this, she is like that, she is unstable, she is inconsistent, but despite, respite and inspite of everythiing, the man will keep loving her. Anyways, I ended up discussing women in context of love, as i believe it was called for by the person who used the word girl bashing.

I am not favouring women or taking their side. But this is true. However, women are very strange. At times u give so much importance to them in life but in lieu you get ignored completely. You show the level of care for them, and they are careless about you. But then again it may be your fault that you were caring for here because you were listening to only that tune that u wanted to listen. But at times it is true that the more interest you show in them or howsoever truely deeply and madly you start loving them, they take you for granted. And would say "Atleast you should understand me". Yes I do understand you but i cant figure out why.

Anyways one can never stop arguing. There would be people who would give me quite valid and justified counter for my these words. But i am sorry, i believe only in my experiences. I have seen this world through my eyes only. I personally like women who are real, honest, sensitive, have a sense of humour and have a sense of loyalty. And I know they are confused. They arent inferior to us. If you believe in switching relationships n changing gears, they shouldnt be played with. Whenever you figure out the wrong they did, ask yourself what was the reason for that wrong. In 99.9% cases you will see a reason in yourself. They have feelings, a kind but naive heart, an intelligent brain. If you are extra potent, they arent the means to show your potency. Neither they are slaves nor they are baby producing machines. They are like us. Respect them and respect yourself.

The Girl-Bashing guy may not read this, but I think your all possible queries have been answered.