Before October Ends………

We all know about the famous poem by Robert Frost – Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening. And since I have a keeda of keeping promises and commitments, I am specially writing this post to keep the promise that I had made with myself and this blog that No matter what, I shall write at least once in a month.

I feel as if I am in army because my mom keeps asking – “Ghar kab Aaogey”. I should be there in Indore this Monday for a week. I was supposed to leave for Delhi today morning but I did not get tickets. But then unexpectedly very early in the morning that there is an urgency in a matter and I have to stay back. Though I do not have substantial things to do in Office but I am here. Such uncertain has been things in my life since sometime now. But that has given me a chance to write to you. I really hope you all are doing well. My best wishes are always there with all of you. Yesterday it felt really good to hear that Vikram got through the main exam of the MP Judiciary. Well done!

I have now been working in Bombay since 2 ½. So far so good. This profession is such that it either causes burn out in a year or two to those who are bright but do not really enjoy doing such hardcore legal practice or who do not have what we call Aptitude or stamina (mental) to sustain the consistently swift pace and ever increasing load of work. Those who are able to manage but are not from this town find themselves in a catch 22 situation where they have a good job and handsome salary but life style is totally screwed. They feel they cant go back to their respective home towns to start from scratch on their own. After all who wants to give up on lakhs of rupees they are earning. And in their home towns there is no guarantee of earning even a decent sum of money, getting good clients. So they are stuck in their jobs just for earning money and being on their own. It should be respected. Everyone is fighting for their survival. Then there is another category of people who are talented and doing pretty good in this profession but who do not know what else to do in life are not very ambitious at this point of time. And of course there are focused ones who are brilliant. They plan for everything considering their growth in the profession. They invest, earn good appreciation and interest from their properties and reach at the higher levels in the profession. And there are other classes of people as well who are not covered above.

I am not discussing here the reason for people being like what they are. There could be hundred of such reasons starting from their family and economic background. I am just assuming and accepting those people as what they are today. Point is that this kind of classification exists in every profession and field in life. May be this creates balance. Because just because of such classification there the CEOs, the Secretaries, the Clerks, the peons, the drivers, etc they all exist in this system. I am not questioning the so called “Quality of Work”. I believe work is work. And if required, even a CEO should do what a office delivery boy has to do. I am not just preaching but I do this in practice.

Okay coming back to my life. I have abnormally lost some weight in previous 5-6 months. Plus haven’t been lucky with weekends either. And in most of the weeks I have ended up working on 7 days. This isn’t a complaint but a fact that I realized after a very long stretch of too much work. You people remember my “its raining men” posts in this regard. Anyways. It has been damn good fun and learning as well.

Looks like that not too many things are going in the right direction for me. Lack of physical exercises is not showing effects. While playing sports I realized that my stamina has come down considerably. That is obvious. And somehow I have realize that I wont be able to play competitive football much. As I would be playing with a fear of breaking my right fibula. Which is very saddening. But then I am weird. I know I will still play until I really break fibula once again. And too add to my misery, Liverpool is in the relegation zone and is being extremely unlucky. And Rajasthan Royals are out of IPL. Quite mysterious is sequence of all these events. But I am determined.

Finally I am Home for a week after 4 months. It is always good to be back at home. May be on November 3rd and 4th, I will be in Bhopal. I miss being in Bhopal.

Dear Blog, I am fulfilling my promise in the 11th hour. Please forgive me for this. And dear readers, I shall try come up with some more interesting stuff next time.

P.S.: I started writing this post a couple of days back and have finished it today.

सितम्बर का सितमगर

माना  कि  हमने  बहुत  गम  सहे  और  आंसू  बहाए
तुझ  ज़ालिम  के  ख्यालों  के  समुन्दर  में  बेखौफी, बेदर्दी  और  बेशर्मी  से  डूबे
फिर  ज़िल्लतें  सहीं  और  लोगों  कि  नज़रों  में  बदनाम  भी  हुए
पर  जब  बदनाम  हुए  तब  मुस्कुराये  और  शर्मसार  हुए  तोह  खिलखिलाए
क्योंकि  इस  गुस्ताख  की   हर  गुस्ताखी  में  शराफत  और  मासूमियत   थी
तभी  तो  भले हमारे   कदम  लडखडाये   लेकिन  सितमगर  तुमसे  ही  सब  सीखा  और  होश  में  आये
अब  कहो  मैं  बेचारा  हूँ  या  वो  गरीब  जिनकी  जिंदगी  में  ऐ  सितमगर  तुम  कभी  न  आये !

During our office retreat i heard someone saying that everything in Bombay is double. So is this second post. Just because I am too tied up, I dont think I will be able to be in touch with you all for sometime. But nevertheless, here is my Second Post.

Dear Teachers,

A VERY HAPPY TEACHERS DAY TO ALL OF YOU!

I believe that if the thoughts are wishes come from within your heart then they somehow get communicated or absorbed by the subject even if you do not communicate. No ! This is not an excuse for not being there for you not only on phone but also not being on your msg boxes and inboxes. But all of you are always there in my thoughts and memories. Each one of you. I rememeber. Being an Indian, I also celebrate teachers days by thinking about all teachers I have had in my life so far and wishing happiness, peace and prosperity for all of you. I wont name any but they all know who have been my teachers. Including you! 

Today wherever I am or whatever I am, its also because of you teacher (I know its sounding very childish but thats what you are to you teacher. A child). I still remeber what all I have learnt from each and everyone of you and how valuable and dear you all are to me. You might just not remeber my name or what you have done for me or in my life, but I always (especially on this day of every year) pray for you. May you all have happiness, prosperity and peace in your life. I owe you alot.

P.S.: 

Dear Friends,

I honestly do think I would be able to see all of you on eid in Bhopal as i had committed. Professional hazards. But I am surely going to visit Bhopal and see you all on whichever coming weekend I get free.

Samachar

Dear G1G2 and its regular readers (presuming that there are no stalkers. Who would stalk on me anyways???),


I have been really out of touch and deliberately so. As you all know I am not on facebook anymore so you, dear G1G2, are the facebook, okut and all other social networking mediums of this minutely social person who walked out of “social networking” a few months back. I only tweet rarely. And twitter too has become an office tool since we started representing ex big chief of IPL. Okay as a principle I wont ever discuss my office or work here. It isn’t that I was super social before this. To my surprise I was told by someone that I am a Social Butterfly. But then again it is not unreasonable as everyone has his own perception which must be accepted as it is. Okay accepting all perceptions as they are, here is the brief record of a few things happening with me or things which I have come across and thought about:

 First of all many congratulations to all those who have been placed in the first session of placements this year at NLIU. It’s a delightful news that placements are back on track and of course behind this success is the lady with the magic wand – Dr. Raka Arya. Res Ipsa Loquitur. I hope the glory-hunters now realize that placements are not a cakewalk. Ofcourse, I am taking away the credits from students, their merits and the hard-working committee. But then it is not that the students from previous batch were less meritorious or so. So, it has to be the magic wand.

 It is damn funny but true as well that Lawyers do not get credit card easily. Especially those like me who are located out of their hometowns and staying on rented premises and not having too many assets to show. I do have an office credit card and it isn’t like that I badly need a credit card. In fact I am totally against this concept of credit howsoever practical it may be. My third credit card application got rejected last week. And the most ironical thing is that the bank this time is HDFC. Boy! Everyone knows that we do so many transactions for HDFC but you cant get their card. Very stupid but true.


 I have been so busy and more than that so much out of touch with my friends that I did not even know that Danish took a very big step to convert his idea into a movie. Yeh Gustaakhi hai. Aur jisme yeh gustaakhi karne ki himmat nahi hoti who bada bhi nahi bann sakta. Main abhi bhi aisi koi gustaakhi karne hi himmat juta raha hoon. Insha Allah……tumhara yeh project kamyab ho. Aaj nahi toh kal ho lekin zaroor ho.

 Okay I am taking my own liberty to discuss something about my work. Not what type, variety, nature of work but something about satisfaction. Apart from doing work for big fishes, big banks, developers, etc, working on very small matters of wills, family disputes, making old couples, men, women feel secured about their properties n similar such matters which provide repief to them give a lot of satisfaction. Trust me. At the end of the day you (at least I) don’t even care to know how fast numbers in your bank account are increasing.

 My Brother just came back from Australia and got settled here with a new job here. And just see his luck. He is now going to France and Switzerland for training. What a luck. If anyone know palm and foot reading, please come and tell me ki mere haath mein kuch aisa yog hai ki nahi?????

 The Mumbai v. Delhi debate has increased like mad. This is good about Delhi, that is bad about Mumbai. Even a minister in UPA Government during BCCI disciplinary comm. proceedings made a statement (off the record obviously) about how Mumbai lawyers tend to increase the size and bulk of their documents. Very unfair. This is not true as I have experienced it. People here care so much about environment. Its not that much as well but better than anywhere else. But I am neither for nor against for Delhi or Mumbai. I love and enjoy both the cultures and I am not at all a city specific person. Except Jabalpur and Indore, put me anywhere. I so badly wish to go back to Bhopal and settle there. I might just do it. Wait for a few years.


 I am still confused whether to buy a classic 500 or a car. I have to buy either of these within next 6 months.


 I have to cover mansarovar or amaranth, Bangkok, Andmaan and Europe in about next 2-3 years. I really have to. I am not including in the list rest of India which I am going to visit as and when opportunity strikes.

 I never ever thought that I will have hair like what I have right now. It has been 75 days since I last used a comb. Thanks to elders, senior partners in office who tolerate me this way. Its not at all indecent but still only a couple of people have their hair like that. Every looks sober as I used to. Ha ha. I am still sober but do not look like one. Its damn cool. I am liking it.

 “Dil ko laga ki tumse kuch kahoon... lekin zubaan ko laga ki kya main dil ki sunoon??? Dimaag inhi khayalon mein uljha raha aur ehsaas hi nahi hua ki hum kitni aagey nikal gaye!!”


 
Phir Milenge.

Ladki Kyun na jaane kyun Ladko si nahi hoti!!!

Ladki Kyun na jaane kyun Ladko si nahi hoti!!!

Ladki Kyun na jaane kyun Ladko si nahi hoti – Remember this song from Hum Tum?? Yeah ! only difference is that here in this post it is not a question. Its a statement. Looks ironical to me.

Amidst heaps of pending and new work piled up before me, I was today successful to find a thought to share with all of you (Assuming that there are atleast 2-3 readers of my blog). It was something which I was forced to think. And the reason for this was a call. An old and respected relative of mine (the name and relation is not so important hence not mentioned) called me up today to find out the postal address of our home at Indore.

I was very nicely told that he (my relative) is genuinely very concerned about my brother and our family. I don’t have any doubts about that. Therefore ( he continued) , as a matter of concern, care, respect, worry and other bullshits, he was looking for a nice homely girl and wanted to mail photos and kundli of that girl. Despite of not been so inquisitive by nature, something forced me to ask the question WHY and WHO IS THE GIRL???. Then he went on answering my simple question (who is the girl) with his additional CARING inputs. And since language should be no bar in describing his real intention (and also since I am not the master of this language), I shall narrate the real hindi version. He said – Ladki bohat Sundar hai. Chemical Engineer hai. ME kiya hua hai aur Indore based hi hai (minus markings for those who pronounced it as Mera wala Me. Its Master of Engineering). Dekho beta ! Apan toh aisi ladki dhoond rahey hain jo maa baap ke boodhey hone ke baad unka khayal rakh sakey. Jissey khana banana aata ho, jo sanskari ho, baat maaney aur zyada tez naa ho. Aur Dahej toh achha milega hi kyonki tum dono bhai badi achhi posts pe kaam kar rahey ho. Despite of disagreeing with each and every word, I kept saying yes for everything because of two reasons. Firstly I did not want to waste my time in office in getting into any kind of useless arguments. And secondly there is no point arguing with old relatives unless and until it is earth shattering for you.

Now let me highlight the issues in the above conversation. Firstly, all these old relatives just for the sake of their ego, image, reputation and word given by them, why do they unnecessarily bother looking for girls and increase my heartbeats ( ofcourse they are finding girl for my brother but after him, its me). Kata kata bechara bakra..........kata kata bechara. It feels as if ki humari aarti uteri jaa rahi ho bali dene se pehle.

Another issue is that y a homely girl only?? This is the most popular and accepted fact by 75% of guys that ki shaadi toh gharelu, homely type ki ladki se hi karenge. But y? Ask yourself that are you homely too? If not, then why do you expect your wife to be homely???? And homely means who makes home. Takes care of every household thing. And behaves well. Listens to what parents/elders say. Doesnt argue much and all that. I am saying all this because if being homely mean and therefores having all these characteristics, then I am not homely and I do not expect my wife to be homely. I believe that love always happens between equals. And unless it is not mutual, then it is not love. Just like this, even in cases of arranged marriage, it is marriage between equals. A guy or his parents shouldn’t expect their bahu to be extra talented and dedicated than their son (Ofcourse my statement is quite unreasonable but in my views thats the way it should be). Why do you want only that kind of bahu who can take care of old parents? Ladka marr gaya hai kya? Ya ek dum dabboo aur gadha hai ki he cant take care of his parents? If he cant then why should his wife take care of them????

Next issue is. Y is it necessary that ladki should be sundar if your son is ugly??? Is she going to increase your TRPs in the social circle???? Is she going to be a showpiece????

Why do you expect your prospective wife to be an expert chef when you yourself do not know how to cook?? I am actually very lazy and unless and until I don’t get a kick from my own self or I am in a mood to cook, I don’t cook. Infact If i had to live alone and on my own then one day I will die starving. Ofcourse I can cook few things but then I will get bored eating those things and wont cook only and then die starving.

Next is dahej. What have you done in life that you should get dahej in your marriage????? Its okay you might be an IAS or a CEO or whatever but you did not become an IAS to get dahej? You became IAS because you wanted to become an IAS. For your ambitions and satisfaction. Now to avoid the terminology of dahej, now a days parents of girl “GIFT” her car, loadza jewellery, cash, gadgets ,etc. If they gift her these things, then your parents should also gift them similar stuff??? Or otherwise nobody gifts anything to each other. Make it equal.

I don’t know how many of you would get inspired by my these stupid thoughts. But I think like that. I am trying to run away as fast as possible from this devil (being institution of marriage). It isn’t that I want to be in a live in relationship. Infact I do not want to be in relationship unless and until I find, meet and have a girl who I like. Infact, I am not looking or waiting for any girl at all. I am just living my life in the way I want to. If I had a girlfriend then I would be on phone uselessly chatting with her instead of writing this post here.

p.s.- Substantial part of this post was written long back. Today I have just finished it. Had been working like mad since sometime now.

Its still raining men !

Today I have resumed work after the holidays. But I find no change in the circumstances. The intensity of rain has become stronger. Its pouring cats and dogs. Its raining so heavily and so much that authorities (MFKP) have informed that I wont be able to get out of this city for a holiday (which is always of minimum 7-8 days for me) till December. I hope weather changes fast. Too much of any of the seasons is injurious for life. Isnt it???? I am not complaining. Till this weather changes, I will resist and fight with all my heart. I will try to develop a new approach/technique to handle these rains and will try to enhance my existing skills. After all, my batteries have been recharged. Pray for me and visit me to boost my morale in these hard times as I wont be able to visit you. Take care. Sorry for keeping out of touch for sometime now. I shall get back with pending posts as soon as I get some time to breathe.

Ghajini

Wondering about the title of this post? Even I wondered about the title of Amir Khan`s Ghajini before it was released. And I again wondered and was surprised when I saw my face in a mirror after getting haircut this sunday. It took a couple of seconds to identify myself and also to realise that I have had the shortest hair ever in my life. Yes, that is what Ghajini is what all about. I knew people are going to give weird reactions and everyone is surely going to ask Y? People did give their feedbacks. I took all of them as compliments. I will tell you why! There were 4-5 people who said it was looking good. A woman in my office said I looked scary. This is a compliment coz I dont really want to look good or handsome to impress women. And thirdly a couple of women told ame that I have very nice hair and I look good in long hair. And most of the comments focussed on Ghajini. That I look like Aamir Khan of Ghajini (except for that stripe and few scars on my head. I do have a few scars on my head which reminded me of so many head injuries I have had). Thank you very much all of you. But I had this haircut just for myself. Because my insticts asked me to get it done. The aim was not at all to have the Ghajini look or to look scary or to let people compliment on my (missing) long hair. We, the human beings, realise value only when a thing/person/feeling goes missing. Its true.

Another thing i want to discuss very shortly here is the latest movie I saw. RAAJNEETI. Yeah! The samePrakash Jha movie. The same movie which I wanted to see not because of subject, cast, director or any other reason except that it has been shot entirely in Bhopal. However, the nature of movie is such that if you concentrate on the shooting and glimse of Bhopal, you may miss links in the movie. However I did not miss either of this. Bhopal looks as pretty as it really is. I could have suggested certain better locations of Mr. Jha. The concept of movie is good. Where the themes of Mahabharat and Godfather have been merged. -Manojbajpai -Suyodhan- very nice;
Ajay Devgan - Karn- fantastic
Nana- Krishna
Ranbir Kapoor- Michael Corleaone (less shades of Arjun)
Katrina Kaif - looks more like Gandhari
Mother- Failed as the portrayal of Kunti
Arjun Rampal- Sonny Corleone/Bhim
Chandra Pratap- Pandu, etc etc..........


But they havent been merged successfully. As you can gather, I have negative reviews about the movie. The truth about the politics shown in the movie (as compared with Mahabharat) in nicely portrayed but not really new and convincing. The director has portrayed as if the characters in the movie as still living in the Dwapar Yug of Mahabharat. There is Rajgaddi, there are contenders which are all in a family, there is morality as well as immorality but where is the Law and Order which exists today? If one makes a very logical movie, then you have to make sure nothing about it should be either illogical or unreasonable.

However, seeing so many familiar places in a movie for the first time was a great experience. I could identify almost 80 percent of the locations bang on target. My entire life in bhopal including my college life has been around those roads and locations. The climax of the movie whether Ajay-Manoj's Scorpio is pushed in a ditch was exactly in the same place where i got down from my car to pull out a election pamphlet/poster of Katrina Kaif. The U-turn the cars take when Chandra Pratap dies in where I was stuck in a scarry procession of Muharrma with my mom inside our car. And there are so many memories attached to almost each oand every location. So inspite of not liking this movie so much, I will make sure I have this movie in my collection.

Girl Bashing???

A friend of mine liked my previous post (wooomen) quite a lot and asked for my permission for putting the same in the Wall of his facebook profile. (To all my readers who arent aware, I am not on facebook since March 29, 2010 which was also coincidentally birthday of someone i knew. I dont have an answer and I dont have a reasonable justification for all those who think that was foolish). So, with my consent, my post was published. And as usual it happens on facebook "x, y and Z and 5000 others like it", I was told that a couple of people liked it. Yes, everyone has a right to like and dislike things. But one person said he liked it coz he loved anything related to girl bashing. Whoever you are and howsoever great philosopher, stud, dude or a hunk u are, but that wasnt meant for girl bashing. I understand that depending upon so many factors, two different person can deduce different meaning out of the same sentence. I am not complaining but i got furious after knowing it. I dont exactly understand these modern, cool, hot and happening jargons. I dont need to justify to anyone what I write. So, I am not writing hereto justify what I wrote and why i wrote. But i need to write something about what I think to avoid misinterpretation in future.

In 25 years 6 months and 6 days of my life, I have had millions of experiences. And in respect of some of such experiences, I believed that those happened quite early and in younger days of my life. But I do not complain as there are miliion other people who would have had such or even bad experiences in even younger days of their lives.  And I have done a blunder once in my life. A mistake for which I cant really forgive myself ever. An act for which I have lost so much. And the tregedy which keeps hauting me. But anyways that is a part of life and it is going to be like that. I have learnt from it. And my character has grew much more stronger since then. I am on my own. And based on all kinds of experiences in my life, I now accept everyone the way they are. I am not judgemental about anyone. Just like a fool, I can now trust even strangers, a taxi driver, a beggar and even a thief for that matter. Anyways like always, main kuch zyada hi beh gaya. Coming back to about women. Everything I do and everything I believe is based on my personal experience and so are my words below.

It is true that at times I completely fail to understand women. But I know they get confused so easily. In this world, I do not know why but it has set up like that so many men are interested in the same woman at the same time. And hence she gets confused. May be it is like that every guy promises heaven, every guy promises golden dreams, every guys touches her heart and every guys promises to break all barriers. But point is that who actually does it. He is the man.  Most of the cases, she might be liking only one guy and rest are just friends. Such kind of friends who are not friend but who are hopeful that they will be able to get her one day. And like this latest Tata Docomo ad, "they hear only that tune which they want to listen. If a girl says "love you" to them, they believe she really loves them and they have some chance. And when they get to know she likes someone else, they call her bitch, slut and what not. They themselves do not realise that they were the real cheaters when in decoy of a friend, they were actually tempting for her. She is not a bitch, slut or whatever you call her. If there are many guys and she doesnt like one particualr guy and is again confused, it isnt her fault. The rule of nature is like that. And if you are frustated at her, then it is your own fault. You are frustated because you did not love her. You are frustated because you did not get what you wanted out of being in a relationship with that girl. If you believe in true n unconditional love, the guy shall not be frustrated. He will be heartbroken. He will be depressed but will keep loving her the way he did. No matter what you tell him about her, that she is like this, she is like that, she is unstable, she is inconsistent, but despite, respite and inspite of everythiing, the man will keep loving her. Anyways, I ended up discussing women in context of love, as i believe it was called for by the person who used the word girl bashing.

I am not favouring women or taking their side. But this is true. However, women are very strange. At times u give so much importance to them in life but in lieu you get ignored completely. You show the level of care for them, and they are careless about you. But then again it may be your fault that you were caring for here because you were listening to only that tune that u wanted to listen. But at times it is true that the more interest you show in them or howsoever truely deeply and madly you start loving them, they take you for granted. And would say "Atleast you should understand me". Yes I do understand you but i cant figure out why.

Anyways one can never stop arguing. There would be people who would give me quite valid and justified counter for my these words. But i am sorry, i believe only in my experiences. I have seen this world through my eyes only. I personally like women who are real, honest, sensitive, have a sense of humour and have a sense of loyalty. And I know they are confused. They arent inferior to us. If you believe in switching relationships n changing gears, they shouldnt be played with. Whenever you figure out the wrong they did, ask yourself what was the reason for that wrong. In 99.9% cases you will see a reason in yourself. They have feelings, a kind but naive heart, an intelligent brain. If you are extra potent, they arent the means to show your potency. Neither they are slaves nor they are baby producing machines. They are like us. Respect them and respect yourself.

The Girl-Bashing guy may not read this, but I think your all possible queries have been answered.